(I got into a fist fight with my sister (which I started), and her husband comes in the middle of the fight and starts choking me. At this point I could not hit my sister bad, but not only did I have her punching me and pulling my hair, but I had her husband choking me at the same time, and this lasted about 10 seconds. So, I know that her punches were self defense, but what about her husband choking me?）
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Hello, that cannot be self defence.
If her husband is holding you by the throat and choking you and your sister is taking the opportunity to punch you – they are assaulting you.
(My ex husband and his girlfriend kept my son for an extra day this week without my permission and they assumed that i was over-reacting. They were suppose to take him to school on Monday and I was to pick him up Monday afternoon. When I got there he wasnt there and I was told by the YMCA that the girlfriend had just left with my son. Highly upset I called my ex asking him what was going on. He told me that he had to go get picked up b/c he acted out in school, ok so why let him go to the Y and then pick him up 10 mins before I got there? didnt make any sense. As the night proceeded and I told them to bring him home, they refused to and said I needed to go get him. Not to mention I called the cops and they told me they couldnt do anything b/c it was a civil court action that I needed to contact the school to see if they tried to contact me, then I needed to contact the courts. After a night of arguing, i went to bed and decided to take care of it the next day. I went to the courthouse and got my divorce papers showing that his dad was to have him 2 days every other week. No other statements on the papers. I’m not hateful, I’ve actually let them get my son each month for extra days, with no problems. A couple of times we had our disagreements but that was b/c they always ask. Well I got an email from his g/f stating that the next time they had my son and wanted to keep him out of school to go out of town they would w/o my permission and that I couldnt prevent them from doing that. She also kept saying that keeping him out of school was no big deal and that it was my ex’s decision to keep him out whenever he wanted. So what do you think? I want to take him back to court but don’t have the money right now, so what can I do, is there anything I can do?My ex husband and his girlfriend kept my son for an extra day this week without my permission and they assumed that i was over-reacting. They were suppose to take him to school on Monday and I was to pick him up Monday afternoon. When I got there he wasnt there and I was told by the YMCA that the girlfriend had just left with my son. Highly upset I called my ex asking him what was going on. He told me that he had to go get picked up b/c he acted out in school, ok so why let him go to the Y and then pick him up 10 mins before I got there? didnt make any sense. As the night proceeded and I told them to bring him home, they refused to and said I needed to go get him. Not to mention I called the cops and they told me they couldnt do anything b/c it was a civil court action that I needed to contact the school to see if they tried to contact me, then I needed to contact the courts. After a night of arguing, i went to bed and decided to take care of it the next day. I went to the courthouse and got my divorce papers showing that his dad was to have him 2 days every other week. No other statements on the papers. I’m not hateful, I’ve actually let them get my son each month for extra days, with no problems. A couple of times we had our disagreements but that was b/c they always ask. Well I got an email from his g/f stating that the next time they had my son and wanted to keep him out of school to go out of town they would w/o my permission and that I couldnt prevent them from doing that. She also kept saying that keeping him out of school was no big deal and that it was my ex’s decision to keep him out whenever he wanted. So what do you think? I want to take him back to court but don’t have the money right now, so what can I do, is there anything I can do?)
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This sounds like my ex! I went through all this.. 1st with a court order the law has to enforce it. So I don’t know why the police told you they couldn’t. Well I do know they told me the same thing, but after getting legal aid I found out that they do have to do there job.
2nd documentation! Keep records of everything. days missed at school, not returning the child. Then you can file a FAMILY ACCESS motion with the court. You can ask the Judge to make the ex pay for the court cost and things, because if he would not of kept your son you would not had to go to court. Every time he breaks the court order file the family Access motion. The judge can order him to pay a fine, even up to jail time for a violation of a court order.
Next see if you can get a free lawyer? Most lawyers do a few free cases a year. Call them all until you find one that is willing to help. Contact legal aid, they may be able to tell you of a lawyer. There is a name for it but cant think of it right off the top of my head.
Next the child has to go to school no matter what they think. Talk to the school and let them know what is going on. In your divorce did it say what day they are to get the child? if no days are set then write a letter and tell ur ex “due to the child being in school and with the child missing days of school you feel that it is best that the visitation be held Friday at 5 to Sunday at 5″ DOCUMENTATION. can’t stress this enough. I can go on and on in this matter. I have learned a lot going through it myself. If you need more info feel free to shoot me an email.
Hope this helps.
i am 38 years old married man, in my whole 18 years married life i care for my wife too much and i had two childrens also, bt at this stage i love a girl of 19 years who is my niece.. i dont want to be without her at a single moment..what is this and suggest what i do for welfare of her and my family?)
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Hi Sanjay,
The best thing is to leave your Niece at once , this relation is of no use , 18years you are honest with your wife now what happened.
Think what if your wife has the same situation and tells you that she like somebody else what will you do you will be the total mess right.. same is with your wife if she came to know , you have two children also think about them , suppose if you do what your heart says i.e to go to your niece , what respect you will gain in the eyes of your children.. when they grow up they will never ever respect you , you will feel very lonely in the later stages of life.
Please don’t make your life a hell , its not in our culture. Because of this everybody will suffer including the person whom you like the most now. For everyone its best that you sacrifice your feelings.